How you can live a life of true happiness
Ultimately we all want to be happy, but what does happiness mean to you?
Growing up in an Asian household, I have heard my fair share of the age-old saying - “Study hard, get a good job, and you will lead a happy life.” If I got bad grades in class, your teachers/parents will remind you of how our academic results would reflect our success in this world.
Slowly, I started believing that happiness comes from succeeding in the world. And to be successful, I had to do well in school.
The truth is, after all the struggles and sleepless nights, I knew deep down that doing this was not making me happy.
How do I know this? Because there was once someone who asked me -“What would you do if today was your last day alive?” That was when I knew that studying was not what I wanted to do.
Instead, I realize that I wanted to surround others and spread joy to inspire them to be the best versions of themselves. I know that I want to share my knowledge with others. I know that I want to spread laughter and positivity into the darkness of others.
The Truth About Happiness
The truth is, as long as we are happy – that is all that truly matters. Stop letting others sway our definition of happiness. If your definition of happiness is to be a writer, to retire at age 30, to be a painter, to have two children, or to run a successful business beach - then go for it.
Here is an analogy of what happens when we let other people influence our definition of happiness. We basically open the doors, invite them in, allow them to do whatever they like, and then they leave. But this your house, not theirs.
3 Important Question To Ask Yourself
We need to focus on doing us. Do what we want, not what others want.
Stop letting the stigma of happiness influence your definition of happiness.
Here are some questions to truly understand WHAT makes you happy.
“What would you do if today was your last day alive?”
“Imagine having your “ideal happiness.” Are you now happy?”
“If there was only one thing I can do for the rest of my life, what would it be?”